Not to be snarky or anything, but isn't it the whole reason the manufacturers switched from the old 1 to 100 volume scales to the 'new' decibel scales so that they numbers would have meaning?
As for calibration, yes you are correct, I used the YPAO setup, but iirc, they only have a plus/minus 3 or 6 db effect anyway.
I went through all the on screen settings, and I didn't see anything that would account for no response for the first 45 db, in fact most of the settings from YPAO were plus a db here and there, but nothing drastic. I was wondering, really, if there's a setting in there someplace that would account for this, like large vs small speakers or something? Oh well.
For what its worth, the stereo in my office is a 2 channel integrated amp, not an a/vr. On that system, background music is around -50 or 60 (and I only turn it up after everyone else goes home, promise!)