Let's agree for the time being that ARC, or REQ if some prefer, in fact crapped things up for you, and/or would hurt more than help in general. Now, recall that some of reasons cited so far for their bad behavior/effects might have been due to the "flattened" low end and high end bands, rendering the sound "thinner", or "harsher", or both.
Combined those suspects with your own experience in liking the effects of Audyssey but only with DEQ "On" (since you wanted DEQ at the time you had no choice but to leave Audyssey "on") and L/R "bypassed", do you then at least wonder if in fact you "prefer" the bumped up bass by DEQ? If yes, then I would further surmise that you are not necessarily a super bassoholic as such, but that you don't listen close enough to reference level, therefore missing the proper balance between the low, mid and high. In other words, if you
were fine with listening at reference level at the time, you most likely could have been fine without DEQ.
If that's all or even partially agreeable, then the remaining puzzle is, was it Audyssey that turn music to crap, or it was simply a case of tonal balance, or imbalance, due to your preferred lower listening level? It could help clear things up a little more if you can confirm/remember which of the following sounded better to you:
1. Audyssey completely off.
2. Audyssey on, Left/Right bypassed, DEQ on.
If the answer is 1. then I would say your speaker's in-room response might have just happened to be able to compensate the tonal imbalance, in this case aka
weak bass, by some bass bumps (aka room reinforcement) in the right place and with the right magnitude. I know I might have made things complicated or confusing to understand, and I hope
@lovinthehd might understand the point I am trying to make too, that you probably do prefer accuracy/neutral than super exaggerated bass. Afterall, you are guy who own/owned at least two pairs (KEF Reference 201/2, Revel Salon2 of speakers that have the flattest looking FR curves I have ever seen published online.