Refuse to accept that I got a 100$ box to let my not so reliable ear do the measuring....
After running audyssey the mains seems to mess up the response quite a bit. Anyway around that? I dunno how much can I move the fronts around.
Logic is the beginning of wisdom. It is not the end.
Likewise, a measurement graph also does not tell the whole story, and is easy to misinterpret. What you see as a sharp, pointy dip and interpreting as messing up the response quite a bit, I daresay is most likely quite inaudible. Comb filters are most often too narrow to be heard. It's the bowl-shaped valleys that are of more concern.
So, now that you have measured, listen. Don't try to achieve a graph that has 0 needle-pointed dips. It'll never happen, not without some serious acoustic treatments in your room.
I had the same beliefs as you when I first started playing with REW. It took me a while to understand why, despite having the same sort of comb filtering in the 1kHz+ range of my own system, I couldn't hear the dips. Knowing what I know now, those graphed responses look pretty damn nice. And I think if you close your eyes and listen to the music, if you try to listen for the dips, you won't hear them. Or at least if you do, it will only be because you were listening unreasonably critically, and they won't be nearly as profound to your ears as they are to your eyes.
As far as changing the response of your mains, you could try toeing them in or out a few degrees, so their angles of reflection are changed. You might also try messing with their crossover point. Try setting them at 100Hz and see whether that makes a difference.