After doing some research I have found on some other forums that this is a very common and real problem. Due to there being no agreed upon standards in acceptable A/V offsets, each broadcaster does things differently, each receiver introduces a different delay, and the list goes on....some TV's are designed to lag the sound and correct the issue, some aren't.
I found this:
http://www.felston.com/dd540/
Might get it and play with it...but like you said...after I fine tune one channel, another one is going to be different.
And that's fine, but when I sit down to watch prison break, i don't like to hear what's going on before it happens