That is called a contactor relay, but they are generally triggered by 24v on 122, I have seen them triggered by 12v before I think they were made by amico... I use them in my field of HVAC, inside geothermal heatpumps, a/c compressors, oil pump transfer systems, ect...
What you are essentially looking for is a 230v switching relay that can be activated by using 12 volts, I'm sure there are plenty of companies that make them...