All correct info so far...
Look at it this way: if the sub's xover is set to say 150 Hz, it will accept 150 Hz and below (for those in the know..not exactly due to the slope but close enough for illustration purposes). Now if the receiver only sends it 80 Hz and below that will be below the sub's xover and it will accept it. The sub will never see anything above 80 Hz because the receiver filtered it before it sent it to the sub.
Many subs have a dedicated input (often marked 'LFE') or a switch that will disable the internal xover. If yours has that capability, set it to disable and then it won't matter where the sub's xover dial is set because it is disabled. If the sub does not have that capability then you want to set it as high as it will go (or at least several tens of hertz greater than the receiver xover) so it will not be 'in the way' and acting on the signal that has already been filtered by the receiver.