Ive been absent from the forum for a few month's now & some of you may be wondering if i fell off the face of the planet............well i did sort of,between dealing with a dying family member in our home & being in a constant drunken stooper for months my head's been pretty much a bowl of jello.
my mother was diagnosed with terminal lung cancer 8 months ago & it spread like lightning,we were faced with a choice of weather to let her die alone in a hospital or to bring her home with us to die,we had a family meeting & we decided to bring her to our home & convert our den to a hospital room & to hire round the clock nursing & hospice,this was not cheap & in the end wound up costing us most of our life savings but it was the easiest part of the process.
In the ensuing weeks we watched her condition go down hill fast & i started drinking,just a shot or two at first then a bloody mary for breakfast until it reached the point where it was a month ago with me drinking a quart of straight vodka every day to hide the pain of watching my mother cough up her lungs & die the most agonizing death anybody could imagine,in the last week of my mothers life her condition was so bad that my wife had to take the children & herself to go stay in my mothers home,it was pretty bad & i never slept except for a few alcohol related black outs, the drinking at that point was round the clock.
On the day of my mothers death we had a family gathering & while i was sipping on a huge glass of 100 proof vodka my youngest son asked me this,Now that grandma is with jesus are you going to stop drinking poppa? I was floored after hearing that little boy say that to me & i poured the booze out on the spot & have not had a drink since.
In the days folllowing the funeral my wife & i were talking & i asked her if my drinking had been out of control & as i expected she said yes,i then asked her how come nobody ever said anything to me & she told me that she had been praying for me & that she & our children understood just how hard it was for me to watch my mother die like that & they knew the drinking would stop as soon as the hard times were over,she also reminded me that i had totally given up on all the things that i enjoy in life like riding my harley's & hifi,i didnt even realize that it had been months since i had listened to the radio or even turned the big rig on & had a listening session,damm did i miss listening to my music collection.
It has been allmost 5 weeks now since my mothers death & ive been sober ever since,ive also tried very hard to spend as much time as possible with my wife & children to make up for the months of pain i caused them while watching me drown myself with ungodly amounts of alcohol,the kids are happy now & the lil woman is feeling much better about things so i figured its about time i joined the rest of the world & got back to doing the things i enjoy.
Right now im listening to miles davis & having a drink..........just coffee
Its good to be back guy's!