Bevan, this is what I was talking about -
http://www.rel.net/manuals/STORM.pdf. Thats the manual for the STORM 5 sub. Look at page 4 for instructions on hooking it up.
The connection I was suggesting was
CD Player --> Amp --> Speakers/Sub
The Speakers and Sub take the signal simultaneously (in parallel) from the binding posts/connectors on your amp using the supplied high level lead (called the Neutrik Speakon connection by REL for some bizarre reason).
If you are sending a full range signal from the amp to the speakers, this will be picked up by the sub, and you can use the crossover settings in the sub to control rather than rely on the amp.
As I said earlier - pay a visit to your closest sevenoaks sound and vision shop (
www.ssav.com). These guys are really helpful, and true hi-fi geeks. You will not find any cube speakers in this shop, only high-end stuff.
If you want further information about the REL Storm 5 (which I have, drop me a PM with your phone number and/or email and I will get in touch with you).
Edit: What you mention as a potential setup towards the end of your message is also (I think) possible with the Storm 5. It comes with a remote control and has a pretty good gain control.
Cheers matey
(Too many ales...)