I've been looking for a mid driver that I can crossover a little higher than your conventional 2-3khz. Taking a look at
http://www.scan-speak.dk/datasheet/pdf/12m-4631g00.pdf http://www.tymphany.com/files/NE123W-08-HS Rev1_0.pdf how high would I be able to take these If I want to restrict myself to no more than second order filters (maybe third order if I have to). It seems the damping slices in the cone of the SS would allow less restrictive filtering, but I'm a beginner so could be wrong.
The first item of business is to select drivers for which a reasonable crossover can be designed.
The acoustic response of the drivers will tell you what slopes and Eq are required. The drivers roll off sum with the electrical roll off of the filters.
You will need a modelling program.
As far as bandwidth of mid range drivers is concerned, the is a dearth of decent ones. This makes two way designs much easier.
As far as crossing over above 3 kHz it pretty much means getting the ATC mid which their pro agents in Vegas will sell you if you twist their arm, or finding pair of vintage Dynaudio D76 domes on eBay, or using an Acutron, mid. If you use the latter, make sure you design the crossover correctly, or the ceramic cone will shatter.
Crossover design is the most difficult part of any speaker project and you need to get experience.
Three ways are far tougher than two ways. For a first project starting with a two way is strongly encouraged.
If you want a three way, I would not spend a fortune on drivers the first time round.
For something cost effective
this driver has a lot to recommend it.
I would use band pass crossover points of 350 Hz and 2.5 to 3 kHz. No higher than 3 kHz.
The SEAS Exel drivers make good midrange units, but below 3 KHz on the top end. They are hard to work with and I strongly advise against using these for a first project.
In addition in my view it is preferable to make the lower crossover point active and bi-amp. In the lower frequencies active filters are far preferable to passive ones from my experience.