I am setting up HT in the basement of our new house--room is carpeted, wood paneling, dropped ceiling--14x16. I'm more concerned about music performance than movies, as I won't be adding a TV until a year or so down the road. I'm looking at the Pioneer vsx-815, or if I can afford it, the Yamaha rxv-657.
My question is about speakers. My budget for speakers is about $1000, and I want to do MCH audio. I plan on spending a lot of time listening while my wife is home, so I don't want overpowering bass, which absolutely drives her INSANE. I'm thinking towers are going to be too big, but I'm nervous about going with bookshelves and a sub (a sub might lead to divorce). I'm thinking a 3-way speaker like the Axiom M22 would be the best compromise for my fronts, giving me decent bass response, but nothing that's going to send my wife stomping downstairs to yell at me.
Aside from some soundproofing solutions (which I'm looking into), what should I be looking at? Bookshelf? towers? Center channel? Rears? Dig a bunker 20 feet under our home? Help!