Hmmm - Thank you for the reply and the info, but I'm a little confused about why you think my electronics are not doing what I expect. Did I give that impression in my post, or is this your opinion about the stuff I've got? (either is fine, just curious!)
I'll be the first to admit my system is not very fancy, powerful, or high-end, but I'm very happy with the equipment I have. As for the connection options I mentioned about the REL, I was talking about the ability to connect both the .1 LFE channel and the high-level speaker output simultaneously and control them with separate gain controls.
This seems like it would be a nice set up for someone (like me) who wants a little more fullness (is that a word??

out of music, and still have some bass in movies as well. I'm running music in a pure-direct mode with all analog connections, so really get nothing coming out of the LFE-out to the sub. I know I can switch to a digital processed output that will provide sub-out, but I think keeping the signal out of the digital processing sounds better - if that makes any sense.... The high-level speaker connection provided by the REL seems like the only or best way integrate a sub into this type of set up for music.
I'm a little new to all this, so please bear with me if it sounds like I don't really know what I'm talking about (I really probably don't!). I'm just going off what I've been reading online on the topic, and what I think I want out of my system.
Thanks again for your help.