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[soundright]

Hi
I currently live in a college dorm and unfortunately the guy living next to me, who actually lives in another suite and we are separated by a wall and bathroom, complains about the loud bass of my music a lot even though I am not even using a dedicated sub-woofer. It is starting to get on my nerve even though I accepted his request every time to turn my music down. I think I play my music at a very reasonable level and the volume on the receiver is always around half-way. I never pushed it beyond 12. I am considering not backing down next time he came to knock on my door and just let him complain to the RA and even school police. It might get me into trouble but I just can't accept the fact that I have to live under someone. People upstairs and downstairs never complained he is the only exception. Next time he either has to fight me or call the school police. What do you guys think of this?

 

[Adam]

This comes up from time to time. There are those who relate to you, and those that relate to your neighbor.

Perhaps you could try to work out a compromise with him, maybe certain times of day that he'll let it pass. The other side of it is that you agree to turn it down whenever he asks. You could also try to become friends (at least to some degree) so that he will feel more compelled to let it pass. I'll bet that if he feels like he has control over the situation, he'll ease up on it. I'm guessing that he just doesn't like having something that is out of his control that annoys him where he lives.

Just a thought. Dealing with the police is another good approach, I guess.

 

[Shock]

Next time he either has to fight me or call the school police. What do you guys think of this?

I think that's a pretty piss poor attitude.

As an ex RA, they take noise complaints EXTREMELY seriously. I have fined residents for disturbing neighbours with loud music. I would hear the same lame excuse every time "It's not even that loud."

It doesn't have to be loud to you, it has to be disrupting to the other person. Usually after a threat of a fine they would get it in their head that it's not okay to disrupt others.

There's a reason headphones were invented. Sounds to me like you should just apologize for bothering your neighbour and buy a pair of headphones.

 

[CraigV]

I think that's a pretty piss poor attitude.

As an ex RA, they take noise complaints EXTREMELY seriously. I have fined residents for disturbing neighbours with loud music. I would hear the same lame excuse every time "It's not even that loud."

It doesn't have to be loud to you, it has to be disrupting to the other person. Usually after a threat of a fine they would get it in their head that it's not okay to disrupt others.

There's a reason headphones were invented. Sounds to me like you should just apologize for bothering your neighbour and buy a pair of headphones.

I couldn't agree more - get a good pair of headphones

 

[cerwinmad]

i think talk to him and work out a compromise. if you resign yourself to just use headphones, you basically taking away the whole point of your speakers and may as well sell them. some people can be a pain about noise and over sensitive. you could invite him to hear your listening volume and see if he thinks its unreasonable. and as stated try work out a time pattern of when hes home. also you could invte campus police to listen next time he complains and get them to decide if its an issue. i had a neighbour who would complain about my talking at night and he was in a room about ten metres away. in the end the local police had to tell him to stop been oversensitive and that during the day you can make as much noise as you like up til 11pm, im in NZ though so your laws will vary.

 

[zhimbo]

"Next time he either has to fight me or call the school police."

Wow. Well, no doubt you're a young male.

Be a grown up, try to work out a compromise in an adult manner (set times you can listen, invite him to listen to how loud you play as someone else suggested, be a bloke about it). If you think he's being unreasonable, ask staff to mediate. If all else fails, realize you live in close quarters, not everyone is going to be happy, and sometimes that means it's YOU who isn't going to be happy. C'est la vie.

Get a good pair of headphones. Don't play them too loud, you don't want ringing in your ears or other hearing loss later on.

 

[PENG]

You have got some good advices and I have nothing to add. I am just curious and would like to know how loud it was from your listening position. I mean in terms of decibels, not by the volume position. Again, I am just curious, if you don't want to be bothered and do not have access to a sound meter then forgot it.

 

[Cruise Missile]

Make friends of everyone that lives close enough to be bothered by your sound system. Invite them over for movies, poker night, or whatever excuse you can find. Then crank it. Make bass not war, you might have more fun along the way.

 

[Alex2507]

Next time he either has to fight me or call the school police. What do you guys think of this?

Personally I would rip your t!ts off, shove a speaker up your @$$ and turn it up to 6.
Then you could think about who you're gonna call and what you're gonna do.

Edit: I'm feeling a little cranky. I would really like a cigarette right about now ... just one though.

 

[browninggold]

I would just beat him up and threaten him and if he says anything he will get another round.

 

[Cruise Missile]

Be strong alex!

 

[Alex2507]

Be strong alex!

It would be easier if I had bloody clumps of somebody's hair to occupy my hands.

Edit: Check your User CP.

 

[Rickster71]

Edit: I'm feeling a little cranky. I would really like a cigarette right about now ... just one though.

I'm surprised, (what little 1st hand experience I have with nicotine)
I thought you were over the hump.

What is the craving like?
I would think it's like my thing for Asian women....just one though.

 

[Alex2507]

I thought you were over the hump.

Oh I am but my brain will probably be looking for that missing thing in the morning after my first coffee for years to come. You don't get to f^%& with your brain chemistry for 30 years and not pay a price.

What is the craving like?

A general sense of unease like leaving a whore house without your wallet. You want it, you should have it but you know you're not going to get it, you've just been f^%&ed and you're not happy. Since you can't single out the responsible party, you're mad at everyone.

Now mind your own business.


Kidding obviously. I appreciate the concern. Now let's give the OP his thread back.

Turn your $h!t DOWN !!!

 

[Rickster71]

Now mind your own business.

Sometimes I think I care too much...

Now let's give the OP his thread back.

So....where's the fun in that?

 

[Davemcc]

It's hard to control how bass waves travel through walls, etc. While you might think it's a reasonable volume with pretty low bass, you neighbor is probably getting just the bass. It's probably just a low boom and and rumble at that. He doesn't even get the benefit of enjoying the music, just the residual noise. Get headphones.

Besides, maybe your neighbor knows a PO's nicotine withdrawing bear like Alex that's ready to take your head off if you don't stop disturbing your neighbor.

 

[Alex2507]

Sometimes I think I care too much...

Oh yeah, mental functions have deteriorated to the point where I just swear all the time like I have turrets because it's the only way I know to express myself. Seriously, I haven't been able to concentrate for months.

It's like being mentally retarded.

 

[Adam]

It's hard to control how bass waves travel through walls, etc.

Until you come to realize and truly believe that there is no spoon.

 

[Davemcc]

Until you come to realize and truly believe that there is no spoon.

Not gonna happen. I took the blue pill.

 

[Adam]

I took the blue pill.

I didn't realize that you were that old.