I'd wait for HDMI 1.3 on the receiver. If you can't wait, get a model year older and save 30% or more. You can upgrade in a few years when the new AVR's pass the HD/HDCP signals properly. Yamaha's 2500 and Denon's 3805 are bargains right now.
Denon makes a great DVD player, but so does Oppo for much less. Is the DVD player for pq, or sq? Have you check out the Panasonic players?
Have you considered the new Elite AVR or DVD player?
How about the Swan speakers which feature HiVi drivers?
With that amount of cash, you should really take your time on this. For one thing, I'd be looking for a different sub than what's suggested. They're good, but don't rate as highly as others in their pricerange.