My Mother-in-Law Makes Me Nuts!

[Ares]

My mother-in-law makes me laugh she was so bent out of shape about my comment I made to her last night, this morning her and I finally had it out.
The messed up part about it,it was done in front of alot of my wife's family since alot them were to drunk to drive home last night. I have never argued with this women in the 10yrs that I have been married to her daughter,but this morning it was the last straw. She started with rude comments about breakfast,then it moved on to what a jerk I am let that go,this was the tipping point when she made this comment what kind of man am I that doesn't have a job to support my family. Well that did it I told her what in the hell is her problem she knows I got laid off that couldn't be prevented no matter what I did and her response was a real man has a job and can pay his bills,okay I am seeing red now I told her I pay my bills and I pay your bills to *****! (now here comes the rant) you ungrateful money hungry ***** after all that we have done for you like pay your taxes so you wouldn't be homeless or how about the new water heater or the new windows so you wouldn't freeze your @$$ off or my personal favorite how about the ******* car your driving did you pay for any of that **** NO it was me because let's be honest here the only person who has been working until recently is me. Well that was that I felt better my wife thinks I took it to far and that I should apologize,but I disagree what do you guys think.

 

[cfrizz]

Ask you wife if what any of what you said was untrue? If she says no, then you tell her that you have no need to apologize & maybe SHE should set HER MOTHER straight about how she should conduct herself in YOUR house!

Respect is a 2 way street. If your MIL wants to get some, she has to give some.

 

[Ares]

See that is the problem right there she has this mind set with her kids that they should respect her no matter what she say's or does and that her kid's spouses should fall in line and say nothing as well. I let alot of things slide for my wife's sake, but the party is over and it's time for my MIL to come back to reality.

 

[pzaur]

Ya know, if she's gonna spout off saying a real man does this and that, then you might as well toss back that a real woman shuts her mouth and only speaks when asked to. She needs to see reality and reality can hurt like a b****. Honesty is simply honesty and it slaps people in their faces occasionally.

On the other hand, she may have a hard time dealing with stress and this is how it manifested itself. Her source of security has been removed and she never learned how to deal with adversity.

-pat

(It's always humorous to see what words are automatically censored and those that aren't.)

 

[Adam]

You could get her one of these. She might think the gift is an apology, and you could enjoy it everytime you see it.

 

[Ares]

Ya know, if she's gonna spout off saying a real man does this and that, then you might as well toss back that a real woman shuts her mouth and only speaks when asked to. She needs to see reality and reality can hurt like a b****. Honesty is simply honesty and it slaps people in their faces occasionally.

On the other hand, she may have a hard time dealing with stress and this is how it manifested itself. Her source of security has been removed and she never learned how to deal with adversity.

-pat

(It's always humorous to see what words are automatically censored and those that aren't.)

You make an interesting point, but here is the thing she just bit the hand that feed her. I could have been one these jerk SILs and done nothing to help her. She was like this the whole time I have know her even before my wife and I got married, but at that time she didn't try that crap with me.

 

[Ares]

You could get her one of these. She might think the gift is an apology, and you could enjoy it everytime you see it.

Adam do you think that would give a window of 5 more minutes.

 

[Adam]

Adam do you think that would give a window of 5 more minutes.

No, but $35 is a small price to pay for the look on her face when you finally tell her what it means.

 

[Ares]

I thought about giving her a subscription to this mag.

http://*****magazine.org/

 

[jamie2112]

Your wife needs to see whats what here and you are in the right IMO.Sounds like you have already held your words long enough and she reaped what she sowed.........good luck.

 

[Ares]

Your wife needs to see whats what here and you are in the right IMO.Sounds like you have already held your words long enough and she reaped what she sowed.........good luck.

Thank you Jamie and good luck to you as well.

 

[Alex2507]

Next time the Mother out law says anything punch your wife in the head.

 

[highfigh]

My mother-in-law makes me laugh she was so bent out of shape about my comment I made to her last night, this morning her and I finally had it out.
The messed up part about it,it was done in front of alot of my wife's family since alot them were to drunk to drive home last night. I have never argued with this women in the 10yrs that I have been married to her daughter,but this morning it was the last straw. She started with rude comments about breakfast,then it moved on to what a jerk I am let that go,this was the tipping point when she made this comment what kind of man am I that doesn't have a job to support my family. Well that did it I told her what in the hell is her problem she knows I got laid off that couldn't be prevented no matter what I did and her response was a real man has a job and can pay his bills,okay I am seeing red now I told her I pay my bills and I pay your bills to *****! (now here comes the rant) you ungrateful money hungry ***** after all that we have done for you like pay your taxes so you wouldn't be homeless or how about the new water heater or the new windows so you wouldn't freeze your @$$ off or my personal favorite how about the ******* car your driving did you pay for any of that **** NO it was me because let's be honest here the only person who has been working until recently is me. Well that was that I felt better my wife thinks I took it to far and that I should apologize,but I disagree what do you guys think.

You could ask her for a list of her contributions to date, but I seriously doubt it would go over well. Remember- sometimes the apple doesn't fall far from the tree. Or, you could make a list of what you have provided for her, with a grand total at the bottom. If her issue is more "how will you provide for my daughter?", she needs to see that what she has already cost you would have gone a long way toward what her daughter could have had and would have been a nice financial cushion, in light of your recent layoff.

If she has always been provided for, stopping suddenly will certainly get a bad response from her but she should have tried to be a little more self-reliant, IMO. Many women want to be provided for and if this sense of security ends, it often doesn't go well, especially if they come from a life filled with uncertainty regarding how they're provided for, starting at an early age.

 

[Adam]

Next time the Mother out law says anything punch your wife in the head.

WTF?!

Man, you crack me up on a continuous basis!

 

[pzaur]

Give her the finger and then a bill for everything you've provided her with.

-pat

 

[griffinconst]

I think your wife should stick up for you on this one. Sounds like her mother was the one who went too far.
This may be a blessing in disguise. Your new policy might be, acting civil to your MIL but you couldn't possibly help her in any way, being she has no appreciation for you whatsoever. And she challenged your manhood in your own house.

 

[Ares]

Next time the Mother out law says anything punch your wife in the head.

Ladies please don't send me letters or PMs I am in no way responsible for the behavior of our resident monkey all letters and PMs should be sent to:

Adam
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*Disclaimer all views and options expressed by the resident monkey are not the views or options of the OP ( even though the OP did find what he said funny)

 

[Adam]

Wait - so I'm responsible for him?!

I'll welcome all letters from the ladies, though.

 

[Ares]

Guys please don't miss understand me, my wife is the complete opposite of here mother to the point I believe she is adopted, my wife has never been an aggressive person or who handles confrontation well. I think this is the reason why we are good for each other she handles the things that require tact and I take care of things when someone needs a foot in the @ss it works. She is well aware that her mother is wrong and as this day has progressed I keep telling her about all the money her mother has cost us just in this past year alone. She will come around and see it from my point of view.

 

[Ares]

Wait - so I'm responsible for him?!

I'll welcome all letters from the ladies, though.

That's right you brought him home and you fed him so he is your responsibility.