those are all things I will be asking about when i come to making the speakers (or modifying some). Ill ask for help selecting drivers and building the minimal neccesary protection for drivers while trying to leave as much of the X-over down to the behringer or just from my PC.
I already use roomEQ with a Pioneer Calibration MIC that came with an old reciever.. its not calibrated with a file and isn't perfectly flat, i calibrated it by ear using many refrence things (bic lighter at 1cm, coughing at 1m etc etc..) but it wasn't an issue for reading the freqency responses etc comparing them to online ones (i was within 1db to the online chart) - so i can use that program quite well now! its a good program.
As for the DSP i dont really need that as i have all those things on my computer anyway. I can set crossovers, delays, preamp, filters and EQs etc to any device output by the PC so all i need is a DAC and some amps. The reason i want the behringer is for analog control and just to play with really, it will be added later to the system. All i was really looking for is "yes that will work" or no it wont, as for the how it sounds bit... i think a system like that would be very tunable for exactly what sound you want in what driver.
Thanks for the input and im sure ill be back at some point to ask more random stupid things