We've all had our share of bad shipping experiences, but don't let that stop you from getting a far better product at a far better price. The best audio products are only available via shipping.
SVS, HSU (for subs)
Ascend, SVS, KEF, Aperion, RBH, Martin Logan, Salk, Philharmonic, Infinity, and JBL are all brands worth considering for speakers.
For receivers make sure it has pre-outs and is a Pioneer, Yamaha, Onkyo, Denon or Marantz. Don't overspend on the receiver since you'll probably be replacing it in a few years anyway. Be sure the research the model no to make sure it doesn't have a lot of known issues. Every brand has duds and you want to avoid them.