i'm in a similar situation, though not as bad as your friend. my wife doesn't really care what i do with respect to speakers and within reason. however, my room is designed such that there is no place to put the surround side speakers. so, i have to put those 2 in the ceiling. the front 3 speakers and the 2 surround back speakers, however, will not be recessed. i get to use floor-standings for my front and bookshelves for my rears. it is a bit of a mutt-like mix of speakers. boston VR3 mains, polk CSi5 center, speakercraft AIM in-ceiling for the surround sides and not sure for the surround backs yet (maybe my polk fxi5's or my older boston HD10 very large bookshelves.