A quick reply to everyone. First, for me, the Pioneer documentation kind of sucks. It has loads of info, but is missing key pieces on how to use certain functions, like "Midnight Mode". After about 2-3 hours of experimenting, I have a compressed sound that should keep me from annoying neighbors. I think commercials are going to be an issue yet, but maybe I haven't found the solution. I read some time ago that congress was considering a law prohibiting commercials playing so many decibels louder than shows, but I don't think anything will come of that. I can't believe how a normal conversation level show absolutely shakes the walls for some commercials.
I also agree that it probably isn't a great idea to use a sub-woofer in an apartment, and if I were to do it over again, I probably would have saved a lot of money using Definitive Tech monitors instead of their really nice towers with subwoofers. I've turned down the low freq levels quite a few decibels and it still has enough kick to hear in the room, but shouldn't be annoying. Like others here, I actually don't like loud music, and I think movies really overdo the sound effects pretty drastically. It hurts my ears to go to the better theaters with "good" sound systems that don't have the qualities that I like in my setup. I like quality over quantity. I may buy another receiver in the near future and relegate the Pioneer to the bedroom TV. I would love recommendations for an extremely inexpensive receiver, with lots of inputs, that has no distortion, enough power to meet my needs and complete tailoring of all of the sound for being a good neighbor.

Actually, I would like recommendations for appropriate receivers.
While we are on the subject of surround, I have two Definitive Tech BPVX rear speakers. Would it make a big difference to add two more in the rear for 7.1 sound? Also, if you are familiar with DT's line, would any less expensive surround speakers of theirs make good rear center speakers? I can get two BPVXs for about $800 and I know they are some of the best I've ever heard.
Thanks,
Jim