I can understand your frustration... but I am sorry that I dont have better answers... Every regular poster here has their favorite speakers... and they are almost all different. We stick with the good brands... Paradigm is the only one not liked too much, though some find them great...
NHT, PSB makes some amazing bookshelf speakers at REALLY reasonable prices, and I have not heard them mentioned in ages...
I love B&W but the 602 bookshelf is a bit big but amazing, and the 601 is not a whole speaker (lacks low mid-range)... Ive heard Energy beign tossed around. Axion is a common word around here... Boston Accustics and Polk, though they are stuck between mass production and niche. This can make a favorite for allot of people do to their availability and their quality. PSB makes GREAT bookshelfs.
Ive heard Energy, they are good to great... they just dont make my hair stick up on the back of my kneck like the B&W's. I can toss around any number of descriptive words, but it just doesnt come down to that.
I cant even possibly name the number of bookshelf speaker manufacturers in the business today. The RC's are VERY small speakers... They WILL be lacking lower mid range. A sub specifically designed for satalites can pick this up, but you will often end up with uneven sound, hotspots, and non-directional sound for allot of your experiances.
These small speakers are also put in the worst positions posible, only making them worst. I would encurage you too look at a bigger speaker, and look at options to help you live with them.
Mike