Thanks! I did move the microphone to a better spot and with a few trials got the phasing OK.
I was a bit confused for a bit when all 5 speakers (front l/r, center and surround l/r) were all out of phase! Wonder what the reference is?
Anyway, my friend is happy now and it sounds OK, considering his really bad acoustics, I guess his (or, actually his wife's) priority is in the room decoration, not the sound. Too bad.