To summarize, you have in Audio Phase SV123 cabinets:
Unidentified 12" woofer provided by Audio Phase
JBL Selenium D250x mid range on a 4×10 horn
Eminence APT80 tweeter
And you want suggestions for a 3-way crossover. You noted your previous trial & error methods were mainly error, and that you've worked 2 hours or more per speaker to do various changes in the past. But you want "nothing professional".
To do anything reasonable will require that you first measure the unfiltered frequency response vs. frequency and impedance vs. frequency for each driver while it's mounted in the cabinet. That data can be used by one of several crossover design software programs that guide you while designing an appropriate crossover. Anything less than that will leave you with trial & error efforts. The problem… my suggestions may cost more than buying new speakers.