Two channels only, right?
Take the "tape out" signal and feed it into a line level input on the second amp. This way, whatever source is selected, it wills end the R/L signals to the second receiver, where you can control the their volume.
If you're talking 5.1 channels, well that's a different animal. You'll need to take the line level outputs of ALL channels on the source receiver and feed them into the "main amp" inputs on the second receiver. All volume will be controlled by the source receiver . As for the sub, well, you'll just have to use a "Y" adapter and send it to a separate powered sub.