every receiver will recognize them as large or big. The receiver will set them to "big" if the speaker is capable of hitting a low enough frequency, but that doesnt mean you should keep it that way. My bookshelf speakers are recognized as large too.
only use large if you dont have a sub, or if your speaker can really handle the bass, and add to the sub. Most people set all their speakers to small and let the subs do all the hard work.
id cross the center at 80-100, and the fronts at 60-80