Hey! Weird issue here. I ended up solving my own problems. Short story, the "master unit" had a lag set to 50ms that I didn't know about and initially i couldn't find the manual lag options in the settings. found it and putting that to 0 solved this issue!!
If you want to know what the issue was, keep reading. if not stop here.
I'm using component cables going from an Onkyo TX-SR605 to a Yamaha RX-V595. So the Onkyo is essentially the master, and the Yamaha the slave unit. The master audio is lagging behind the slave unit's audio. By fiddling with things, I've noticed if I set the Onkyo equalizer setting to be "direct", then there is no lag between speakers/recievers. When I use any equalizer settings besides "direct" the speakers connected to the Yamaha (slave unit) will lead the audio coming from the Onkyo speakers. I havn't used 'tape out' much in the past as i havn't had a need.
The 'direct" setting does not utilize my center speaker plus the quality isn't great so i'd rather not use it. The lead/lag is very noticeable and ruins the experience.
More info if interested. The Yamaha is powering some semi custom theater chairs that have subwoofers in them. I don't currently have a low pass filter going to the subs, you more get a vibration effect of the chairs. If i used some lowpass filters, the lead/lag i'm assuming would be less noticeable, but i'd like to solve this either way.