What's your defination?
1) Someone who has to have the absolute best gear regardless of cost because they think it will improve their social life? Or
2) Someone who is so into music they want to have the best gear to have the best sound possible regardless of how high a price they pay? or
3) Someone who is so into music they want to have the best gear to have the best sound possible, and want to get the best gear to make the sound the best to themself, and chooses not to believe the marketing BS, but does research to get the best gear at the best price regardless of whether that price is very high or very low?
You will find most people at this site follow #3, but if you have to go #1 or #2, there is Audio Asylum (or the toilet).