ok. alot of questions here but most are pretty important.
in general, the lower the ohm rating on a speaker, the harder it makes your receiver work. a 4 ohm speaker is a very tough load for a smaller receiver, and most can only drive 2 such speakers. An 8 ohm (which is what most sub-$2,000 speakers are) is a much easier load.
you only have to connect 1 speaker to hear anything. the system will be perfectly happy with 2, it just has the capability to attach more.
any sub will work with your system, if it has the right connections. your active sub will probably have an RCA-type jack to match to the one on your receiver. check the books on the receiver and the sub, as it may want a special 75-ohm cable to carry the sound. these are generally shielded to limit noise interference, since the signal is still in a milli-volt level. the signal doesn;t get amplified until it reaches the sub, so any noise seems like alot. on your main speakers, the signal is already amplified, so noise is less of a problem.
if the amp is 100 watts all the way around, it will work very well with 130 watt speakers. this means you won;t be overdriving your speakers, BUT, if you play the amp too loud, it may generate alot of noise rather than music. Noise at lower levels can still damage your speakers... they are not vibrating in harmony, it's more like anti-harmony (disharmony??) but the speaker magnets are trying to move two directions at once and will often blow.
the 60 watt rear speakers may be a concern.. check the receiver book to see if it actually has a lower rating for the rears, as may do. It may have 100 watts across the front, but only 70 across the rear (this is a typical set-up for some of the entry-level Sony's).
Even if the receiver is rated for 100 watts all the way around, the speakers will probably still be safe, even at moderately high levels, if you are playing movies. Movies tend to use the rear speakers in spurts, and they will absorb a "peak" signal for a short period of time.
If you are running high-end audio (like SACD or DVD-audio), you are running full watts out to all the speakers all the time, so you will have to keep at lower volumes (like maybe 60 to 70 % of the receiver's max volume).
If you have the option, simply set your rear speakers to a "small" setting, then the receiver will cut some of the signal out for you.
if you can, get the same model line from the same manufacturer for your front three speakers. these speakers are designed to work well together and are called "timbre-matched". a set of speakers with matched timbre will give you a smooth movement of sound in a surround movie from the left to center to right without any interruption. if the timbre doesn;t match, you may have a little interruption as the sound goes across the screen.
the back speakers do not have to match so critically. it's nice, but not completely necessary. you have a lot more distance for the sound to travel, so you don't notice a timbre mismatch quite as much.
Depending on whether you plan to go more for movies or music, the center speaker can be the most important piece (especially since you already have a sub). In most surround-sound movies, the mains (front left and front right) will carry alot of music and special effects, but the center carries most of the talking. so plan to spend a little extra on that piece to make the dialogue as clear as possible.
One more note, it's important to get decent wire to connect your speakers, but don't fall into any traps. A decent gage (16 or better) wire can be had for about fifty cents a foot at RadioShack, axiomaudio.com, impactacoustics.com, or partsexpress.com.
Don't sink a ton of money into the wires, but don;t short yourself. You can get well-made, good-looking, fully assembled cables made to length to match your speakers and receiver at impact acoustics for about half the price of just the cable from Monster. If you have to make a run over 50 feet to get to your rear speakers, get 16 gage or larger for the best signal.
sorry for all the tech stuff in such a small package, but hopefully you have enough information to start out. good luck and welcome to the hobby.