What you want is a receiver with the ability to handle at least 2 zones. The HT would be the primary zone and have 5.1, 6.1, 7.1; whatever you choose. The main channel outputs are not intended to be used for speakers in other areas with the exception of some that can reassign the 6th and 7th to power another zone. Then zone 2 would be all of the other speakers (powered by one external amp). This would allow you to use any stereo analog source for zone 2 and have independent volume control of them via the receiver. If you use an RF capable remote (or convert the one you have with a RF extender kit), you can then control the overall system volume from anywhere in the house (globally, not individually though).
A+B switching for 2 speakers probably won't hurt anything unless you really crank it, but running 2 sets of speakers from a single channel is probably not a good idea.