Joe
I just read the thread in your link and I'm not surprised that you are confused. The manual was not much help either.
Think of it this way. Multi-channel surround sound in movies involves making moving objects sound realistic. The relative arrival times of sounds from the different speakers is important for this. It requires that you tell the processing chip in your receiver how far away each speaker is from a single central seating position. It can be easily done with a tape measure. Don't rely on the preset factory setting because you must adjust for the room size and furniture arrangement that you have. Your reciever manual calls it setting the delay time. Sound travels 1 foot through air in 1.1 milliseconds (ms). Your manual says you have a range of 0 to 15 ms to work with, which is about 13.6 feet if you divide distance in feet by 1.1. I think you got all of that correct.
The diagram in your manual is OK if you ignore the ms values it shows. I think that was a big part of your confusion. The diagram does show that the front left speaker is the same distance from the listener as the front right speaker, and likewise for the surround left & right speakers. They are both equal distance from the listener.
If I understand you manual, one setting adjusts the delay time for both front speakers, another sets the delay time for the center speaker, and the third setting sets the delay time for both surround speakers. It assumes that the distance for the front left and right speakers is the same, and likewise for the two surround speakers. Just like the diagram. If the left & right speakers aren't the same distance, try to move them so the distance for each is nearly the same. If you can't do that, use the average distance for the front pair, and the average distance for the surround pair. It doesn't have to be perfect, but do the best you can.
Did you figure out how to use the Radio Shack sound meter?
It's a good idea to write down all your settings. If you have a power failure, your reciever may loose what you entered in it. The next time you turn it on, it may revert to all the original factory settings. Some receivers loose this info quickly and some can remember it for a week or two without power. I hope your receiver has the longer memory, but just in case, write it down.