I'm very much a beginner myself, but I don't think you're getting 5.1 out of those red & white RCA cables. The best you can get is 2.0, either straight from the stereo option on the DVD, or downmixed from the DD or DTS 5.1.
If your receiver supports 5.1, then it likely has various surround modes (like PLII and Neo:6), and that's why you're hearing sound out of all your speakers. But it's not true 5.1, just a "faux" surround made out of the 2.0.
If you were to use a digital coax cable or a digital optical cable, then you'd be getting true 5.1 (or 6.1) from the DVD player. And those six (or seven) separate channels of information are travelling in ONE cable! Crazy!
cheers,
supervij