Well Phil, apartments are not the only place where HT's are a no-no... apparently my house is too! It's become ever more difficult to use my setup. There's always someone using it or causing too much of a commotion to allow me to enjoy it.
My honest NY resolution will be to make time to enjoy my system... to listen to music and watch some movies as loud as I want, uninterrupted. I just have to plan better. When they're gone has to be my time and I need to utilze it.
One the kids here has an apartment by our office. I went there to help him setup his new TV and receiver. In an apartment, it's really not the volume but the bass that drives people crazy. Back in my old condo, the guy a couple doors down from me was a gamer and he played constantly. At 2am, you could just barely hear and feel the bass and it was maddening. To be honest, he barely had it up at all, but the bass just does carry. it was just the very faint muffled noise that drove me nuts. I suggested to Brian who has the apartment to invest in some good headphones to solve his problem. He seemed crestfallen at first, but has since told me that it was the best idea he's ever gotten. I've been over there and it's odd, but when you have the big headphones on, you sort of get lost in the sound. You still sort of get that surround effect because there's just so much going on in your ears.. it's like your brain sync your eyes to the sound you hear and it sill feels like the dialogue is coming from the TV. Give it a shot, it may be a good alternative. All the best to you this new year my friend.