There are a couple things to keep in mind. First, by using the 80 hz high pass frequency you are limiting cone motion on the mains, which will reduce modulation distortion on higher frequencies they also reproduce, giving improved mid-bass and mid-range quality (this is exactly what you mentioned with the "tighter feel"). Related, but perhaps marginal, you allocate available amp power more optimally, with slight increase in available headroom. Second, your towers will have gobs more headroom than a smaller speaker above 80 hz, allowing them to achieve louder clean output. Wide dynamic range pays big dividends when it comes to realism and impact.
So don't feel frustrated. Your settings happen to coincide with the most widely recommended approach, and you're experiencing the results. So again, don't be frustrated, you're doing just fine. Your system with towers has more capability than one using smaller speakers. Relish in it, and go crank your favorite tunes!