Thank you for your prompt replies!
Both subs are set the same, with all the fancy adjustments set to off, phase set to 0, and gain to -5. Setting it to -10, for example, provides pretty weak bass. With my current setting, the subs' cones move less than one inch (2 ways) during peaks.
Setting the crossover to a higher position sounded like a very logical thing to do, but I could always localize the sub (when I had only one) and missed some of the mid bass details from the speakers. I had it at 60 hz for a while, but lowering it to 50 was a clear improvement. With 2 subs the higher I set the crossover, the worse it sounds.
Turning either one of the subs off fixes the problem.