Can you double-check the labelling on the sub or the manual to see if one of the two can be used alone? Usually the R channel will be designated so.
I don't have a huge objection to using a stereo cable but there is no point if it's unnecessary. There is very little likelihood that the true sub frequencies would differ between the two channels; it's almost certain they will be identical. The Sub will be summing the two channels into one in any case.
Using a stereo cable will not make the sub any louder, nor will you be adding any information over what a single channel would provide, but it will make your wallet lighter.
With any cable, Red = Right channel, any other colour = left channel (if it's polarity, such as connections on a speaker, Red = (+) ). So, typically, if there is a "main" one, it's the Red connector.